Single but not too ready to mingle

I am single and I don't want to be. I have guys who wanna be with me, but past hurt and the fact that I still have feelings for past guys who have added to that hurt cause me to shut out the ones who want be with me.


First off I think you really to sit and think about why you don't want to be single. Try writing down your thoughts, make a list of why you being single is not so bad, and why you would rather be in a relationship. If any of your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship are or are related to you feeling a need to be in a relationship you may have a negative self view and you will need to work on your self esteem/worth first. A healthy relationship with another person starts with having a healthy relationship with yourself first. Next there is nothing healthy or helpful about harboring on old feelings of hurt, you need to analyze them learn what there is to be learned ad drop it. I know the last one is easier said than done but it can be done. Furthermore I would definitely warn against getting in a relationship while you still have feelings for these other people those feelings are like bad seeds that will grow into very bad weed like plants that you don't want growing into your beautiful garden of love and bliss. Your best bet would be to get into a relationship with yourself, fall in love, work to let go of that which burdens you and then and only then if you still want to add someone else to the mix you should be in the clear to do so.