Relationships can get a bit stagnant sometimes. At these times we have to do things to spice things up a little bit. This can be accomplished with a gesture as small as buying something just to let him know you love him to fixing him his favorite dinner to setting up an elaborate romantic night alone. If what you do is from the heart then it is sure to be appreciated and recognized. You can also try just going to talk to him about his level of excitement for the relationship. I recommend doing both, you cant go wrong with that.
True love doesn't only exist in an exclusive relationship. There is a variety of different reasons that he loves you but you all aren't in a relationship. Some of them include; he isn't ready to be in a relationship at the moment or a relationship between the two of you just isn't in either of your best interests. Just because an exclusive relationship isn't established doesn't rule out the possibility that he could be madly in love with you. As far as how can you be comfortable in the situation, well it is possible but first you have to discover and understand the dynamics of your relationship with this guy. It is natural to want to have some security involved when love is in the mix.; its a matter of not wanting to get hurt. If you really believe that he is, in fact, in love with you then you should trust that he is making the decesi9on not to be with you at this moment in the best interest of you, the relationship and himself.
Making "mistakes" in the arena of sex is probably a problem that just about everyone has had before. As far as whether these results of poor judgement qualifies you to be a whore, well thats a matter of personal opinion. I would say the fact that you question whether you are a whore or not indicates a problem. You might want to reevaluate your sexual activities. Having sex with multiple persons simultaneously presents a whole gambit of possible problems that I don't even have to get into. Basically if you really don't feel good about the sexual things you are doing then you definitely do not need to be doing them. It will only present problems and cause you to feel bad on the later end.
I have to say that is quite awkward. As far as what you should do depends on the type of relationship you all have at this point. If you just them randomly like in the grocery store or when you go back to visit your old school then not much at all needs to be done. Keep your distance and you should be good. If you have to deal with the teacher on a regualr bases then you may want to explain to them that it is a very awkward situation and you prefer to not change the parameters of the relationship.
A lot of time we act differently around our significant others when other people we care about are around. Whether its friends or family we may feel the need to present our boyfriend/girlfriend, our relationship, and how we fit into the relationship the way we think our loved ones want to see it. We attempt to show off our perfect relationship... Most often times we realize later that we should have kept it real with ourselves and everyone else. The best thing to do in this situation is to aswk your boyfriend how he feels about the relationship. Follow that with a presentation of this issue that you have. Try to find out why he feels he has to act differently. A lot of times you will find that the answer lies within confidence issues. It is somewhat natural for us to act a bit differently when around different sets of people so mild cases of this should be permissible but when it comes to a point of disrespect and maltreatment then a change has to be made.
Talk to him. Start an open dialouge about how he feels about you, your role in the relationship as well as his, and share with him your views on these things. You should also look into how he views and treas the other women in his life as this is often the most accurate gauge of what he thinks and feels about women. Make sure he understands the impact his behaviors are having on you. Also somethings to think about and meditate on; how you treat him, how much respect you show him, and how you treat yourself and the respect you have for yourself. People pick up on how much respect others have for themselves and will treat them with the same amount. As I always say; "people can only treat you how you allow them too". So if you want more respect get more respect.
A lot of times in life we get to a point where we just feel stuck. The best way to "un-stick" yourself is to just up and do things. Try to figure out what you want to do, what you want to accomplish, what you want to learn, what goals you have for yourself and make into a checklist. After your checklist is done, aggressively resolve items on the list. If you just can not for the life of you figure out what you want to do go to your family and friends who are closet to you and ask them what they like to do, want to do, want to learn and such for ideas. Since they are close to you they will probably have similar interests as you and would make a great source for ideas.
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